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Friday, August 21, 2009
25 Things I Want (In Bed)
Recently, Greta Christina got the awesome opportunity to go and see Adam Savage (a.k.a. the redheaded dude w/o the beret on "Mythbusters") read a piece he wrote about 100 things he wanted in life (a little bit of it is here). She was so inspired by it- and so incensed at the fact that it left out anything sexual- that she wrote her own list, narrowed down to 25 instead of 100, of things she wants in bed- ranging from the fantastical to the easily attainable. Tt was entirely fascinating to read, and of course, ended up inspiring me to write my own, as well.Some were quite surprising, like recurring themes of not having to struggle with self-esteem. Others, it just felt nice to actually write out some of the fantasies that have long lived unspoken in my head. Some of them are things I'm dedicated to setting out and doing, because this list made me very aware that it's possible, and, what's more, that I deserve them. It was really an interesting experience to write it- very thought-provoking. I highly encourage anybody else to try writing out their own- sexual or otherwise. And, in the meantime, feel free to read mine, after the jump!
1) I want to be the victim in a serial killer-inspired roleplay fantasy. (Okay, fine. Dexter-inspired. I'll admit that the idea of being naked and strapped with plastic wrap to a table, with Michael C. Hall staring me down, gives me delicious shivers). I couldn't even tell you what I'd want to happen in the role-playing . . . not sex, because that would kind of ruin/cheapen it, not hardcore torture, because I couldn't take it. Just some sort of serious fear, the threat of sick twisted shit and menace, a strong sense of ritual and routine and just a sort of pervasive evil, a detached boredom. Hard to explain.
2) I want to have an emotional breakthrough in a BDSM scene- for tears to suddenly come pouring out unbidden from somewhere deep inside of me.
3) I want to spend time in some sort of BBW nudist/sex resort where everybody there is hot for my body type, and I can wear whatever I like- clingy fabrics included- and for once not let the confidence come from the inside, but to relax and let it come from others, from the outside.
4) I want to have sex with a beautiful androgynous person who has literally all parts- breasts, cock, cunt, asshole and prostate. Don't ask me how it's all arranged; it's just there.
5) I want to find and use completely opaque condoms- thick and in all bright colors of the rainbow, and use them on a guy- turning his cock into a pretty sex toy. My first sexual fantasies, before I really knew what a condom actually looked like, imagined it to be opaque and as orange as a traffic cone (why did I think that?), and the image has stuck with me.
6) I want to have a prostate and feel what men feel when they get fucked.
7) I want to have sex while pressed flat to the window on the highest floor of some urban skyscraper at night- the chill of the cold glass against my skin in the front, the warmth of the body behind me, and the gorgeous twinkling nightscape below me.
8) I want to get my labia and nipples pierced.
9) I want to create porn with my own personal vision.
10) I want to be mummified (below the neck) in Saran wrap.
11) I want to experience weightless sex in a zero gravity environment. I want to take advantage of all sorts of freakish acrobat-style sex positions while doing so.
12) I want to stumble upon an orgy in a beautiful meadow, full of mythical creatures- satyrs, fairies, pixies, mermaids, nymphs, gods and goddesses, witches, vampires, centaurs, angels, demons . . . all gorgeous and iridescent in the light of bonfires. And then I want to be invited in.
13) I want to be able to, at least for one day, walk around and not have to censor myself at all. I want to sing bawdy songs while I do the dishes. I want to crack crude sexual jokes and elbow and wink at people. I want to talk openly about kinky sexual things. I want to watch a TV program and say all the things that I want to do to that hottie onscreen, the things I currently only say in my head. I want everybody to be on the same page as me, to be fine with all of this, and to do it, too.
14) I want to vacation with a lover at a huge, beautiful, hidden-away-in-the-woods kinky bed-and-breakfast.
15) I want the courage to be able to tell someone who doesn't (or who won't likely) reciprocate my feelings that I find them sexy and attractive. I want to do it without being vulnerable. I want not to care and thus make them squirm and feel awkward, instead of me. I want to have the power and strength to be able to pull a Katya Derevko move (in "Alias", she tells him "I find you sexy, Jack. Deal with it."). That's what I want, to tell others to deal with the fact that yes, I find people who are "out of my league" to be sexy. And I want admitting that to not make me feel bad about myself, but better.
16) I want to have a poly relationship, even if we all sort of know that it's not something that's going to last. I just want the experience, and to be able to part ways amicably, when it comes to that.
17) I want one roleplay costume that was custom-made just for me- fitted, tailored, authentic design, expensive fabrics, excellent sewing, high-quality, exquisite attention to details. The kind of costume that gives you a thrill just to know that it is in your closet, that fits like a dream and feels like a million bucks, that instantly transforms you into the role when you put it on.
18) I want to undergo My Fair Lady-esque training, with feminization training mixed in . . . taught how to be a good companion, the perfect woman. Lots of training to walk in high heels, to float effortlessly as I walk, to be charming and graceful, to become a femme fatale. I want to accompany him somewhere to be made to perform the role, and I want for every second to radiate my submissive desire to please and his quiet, controlled dominance and pleasure with it.
19) I want to see an erotic cabaret or burlesque performance at some wonderful atmospheric club that's evocative of the 1930's.
20) I want to masturbate while lying in a massive, pillowy pile of women's dirty underwear (dirty as in smelling strongly of them, crotches stained with sexual fluids . . . no skid marks, just to clarify), breathing in the overwhelming scent all around me. And then I want to fall asleep there, curled up in them.
21) I want to seduce a naive, innocent, virtuous, beautiful barely legal boy, in tandem with an equally kinky female partner, to watch him resist, succumb, fight the urges, give into the temptation as we tease him and introduce him to everything possible, as he experiences it for the first time. Extra points if he's religious and shy and repressed but curious (of course). Or maybe it'd be a little more ethical if it were roleplay and I wasn't actually inducing sinful behavior and creating nonbelievers.
22) I want to be mindfucked by someone who is a master of mindfuck.
23) I want to pay for sex with a gorgeous butch lesbian escort (or, alternatively, a sexy FtM escort). I'm not quite sure why I have this fantasy, actually . . . but I've bookmarked every one of the few escorting profiles out there on the web and it's pretty damn persistent as a fantasy, holding all the appeal that a femme escort or a male escort simply doesn't have for me.
24) I want to try a fucking machine. Well, actually, I would just like access to all the different fucking machines there are in the world, please and thank you.
25) I want to be able to change sex at will- including to any variety of trans or intersex bodies.
So . . . what are your 25 things?
Monday, March 24, 2008
Hot 'N Queer: My Porn Recommendations
Lately, I've been getting a lot of questions from people asking me about various types of porn that I promote. I've finally decided to put all the information in one place for anyone who wants it. Enjoy! And if you have anything more to add, please leave a comment, since I definitely don't know about every piece of porn out there, and may have missed something really great.So we all know that the kind of porn that we watch doesn't necessarily reflect on our sexual orientations; if anything, the porn collections of most people will attest to that. I'm sure nobody could decide if I was a lesbian woman, gay man, straight man, straight woman, transperson, or anything by looking at the hodgepodge of stuff that I enjoy. But I do tend to stay away from a certain type of porn. The kind of porn I hate is fake and passionless. Everything about it is fake, from the boobs, hair color, tans, and smiles of its stars to the passion and the orgasms of its women. Nothing about it feels or looks like the kind of sex that I have, and because of that, I can't relate to it. it's often got this misogynistic tinge (or outright male chauvinistic message) that doesn't even bother with the pretense of female orgasms, calls women "bitches", "ho's", "sluts" (and not in the good way or in a specific BDSM-related context), and always seems to end with that cliched and standard facial cumshot (ugh). The lesbians in the porn I hate are not real lesbians- they are inept with one anothers' bodies, they gaze into the camera (and hence the presumed male viewer), and they adhere to a pornographic, heterosexual male standard of beauty and sexiness. The transwomen in the porn I hate are invariably given demeaning names ("shemale", "chicks with dicks"), the porn rarely exemplifies true trans experiences (like difficulty in getting erections when you've been on estrogen for a while), and are treated just as badly as non-trans girls in straight porn. The transmen in the porn I hate don't even exist. In the porn I hate, love, passion, and chemistry are all too rare, eschewed instead for big dicks, big tits, and wall-to-wall gangbang action that tries to make up for what it lacks with the 'quantity over quality' concept.
This list is not about the porn I hate; it's about the porn I love, the opposite of everything I listed above. It's realistic, it's passionate and loving (often with real-life couples), it treats women and sex as beautiful, positive things to be cherished, respected and enjoyed, it features safe sex, and it has real orgasms (my favorite!). Enjoy it. Buy it. Spread it around, because God knows that it's all too rare, and needs all the support it can get.
How To Read This List:
It's organized by the type of sex portrayed within (gay, lesbian, straight, trans, etc.), although you should remember that many of these categories can overlap and share areas with one another. I have them listed first with the production company, then the title, just to make it easier for you (as if putting clickable links wasn't kind enough!). Almost all of these movies can be found as VOD (video-on-demand) at Hot Movies For Her VOD, too, if you'd rather have it on your computer than as a hard copy or just want it instanteously instead of having to wait for it to ship.
Queer [Mainly Lesbian] Porn:
I add in "mainly lesbian" here as a qualifier because while this stuff is technically lesbian, it often features transmen in it, too, just to warn you, if that isn't your thing. All the porn listed here has a least one butch woman in it. I'm not saying that femme-femme porn can't be realistic, hot, and sexy (by God, of course it can!), but it's much easier to find positive and real femme-femme porn than it is to find butch-femme and/or butch-butch. Many of the videos and websites do have femme-femme in it, though, along with butches. So, in no particular order:
1) Pleasure Productions' "San Francisco Lesbians Series", Volumes 1-10
2) Factory Video Productions' "Working Girlz"
3) Pink & White Productions' "The Crash Pad". You can watch the preview trailer for the movie here.
4) Pink & White Productions' "Superfreak". You can watch the preview trailer for the movie here.
5) Pink & White Productions' "In Search Of Wild Kingdom". You can watch the preview trailer for the movie here.
6) Pink & White Productions' "The Crash Pad Series, Volume 1". You can watch the preview trailer for the movie here.
7) Early To Bed's "Coming Home"
8) Early To Bed's "Special Delivery"
9) S.I.R. Video's "Hard Love/How To Fuck In High Heels" (the two are sold together)
10) S.I.R. Video's "Sugar High Glitter City"
11) Fatale Media's "Afterschool Special"/"Turn Me Up, Over, and On" (the two are sold together)
12) Fatale Media's "Take Her Down!: Lesbian Erotic Oil Wrestling Party"
13) Fatale Media's "Full Load: Scenes From Ssspread.com"
14) Fatale Media's "Suburban Dykes"
15) Fatale Media's "Bathroom Sluts"
16) Dirty Pillows' "Pornograflics"
17) Mojo Video's "Real Butch Dyke Lesbians"
18) Hysterie Prod's "Pour Une Nuit"/"One Night Stand". And here is the film's Myspace, complete with lots of non-explicit preview videos.
19) Crash Pad Series Website
20) Good Dyke Porn Website
21) Cyber Dyke Website
Straight Porn:
I'm the first ot admit that I don't watch that much straight porn, for reasons cited above. So I don't claim to have all the great movies that you should be seeing. But here are the few that get my thumbs up, almost all from Comstock Films. NOTE: all of these are fabulous, because all have preview trailers on the sites so you can see what you're buying.
1) Comstock Films' "Jack and Marie: A Hardcore Love Story"
2) Comstock Films' "Xana and Dax: When Opposites Attract"
3) Comstock Films' "Matt and Khym: Better Than Ever"
4) LUST Films' "Cinco Historias Para Ella"/"Five Hot Stories For Her"
5) Libido Films' "Trial Run"
6) Libido Films' "Urban Friction"
Gay Porn:
I watch a ton of gay male porn; I love it SOOO much. But (I confess!) I don't purchase much of it because there's just so much of it available for free on the Internet, and it's of a high-enough quality and good aesthetic and message that it sates all of my needs. So I can't provide much information here, but I will list a few that have caught my eye for going above and beyond:
1) Comstock Films' "Damon and Hunter: Doing It Together"
FtM Porn:
FtM porn has gotten a lot of attention because of butch hottie and total amazing transguy Buck Angel, who put FtM's on the map in the porn world and has carved out a niche for himself. He's won awards, gotten recognized in the adult entertainment community, and paved the way for those who follow. Can we get three cheers for Buck? But there are a couple of people who came before Buck, and several who have come after, to increase the FtM porn out there from 'nil' to 'some'. Oddly enough, most of the FtM porn out there (and most of the videos on Xtube, too) seem to be gay male/trannyfag in nature . . . I'm not sure why that might be or what it means, but that's the state of things, so if you're longing to see transmen with girls, you might have to wait a little bit longer. I'd also like to caution that many of the FtM's here are alongside lesbians or gay men, so go through them on a case-by-case basis to see what'll appeal to you:
1) Fatale Media's "Full Load: Scenes From Ssspread.com"
2) Dirty Pillows' "Pornograflics"
3) Hysterie Prod's "Pour Une Nuit"/"One Night Stand". And here is the film's Myspace, complete with lots of non-explicit preview videos.
4) Morty Diamond's "Trans Entities: The Nasty Love Of Papi and Will"
5) Morty Diamond's "Trannyfags"
6) Christopher Lee's "Alley Of The Tranny Boys"
7) Christoper Lee's "Sex Flesh In Blood" (I can't find this movie for sale anywhere; if you know where to get it, PLEASE tell me)
8) Trannywood Pictures' "Cubbyholes: Trans Men In Action". You can watch it with video-on-demand here.
9) Trannywood Pictures' "Couch Surfers: Trans Men In Action".
10) Buck Angel's "Transexual Man" Website. Buck's a totally prolific actor and has tons of movies, far too many to list here, so you can view all of them here.
11) Crash Pad Series Website
12) Red Handed Porn Website
MtF Porn:
Like I mentioned above, most "shemale" porn feels just as exploitative as the name implies. Where are real transwomen? Unfortunately, I've yet to find much in the way of real transwomen, but here are some sources:
1) Red Handed Porn Website
2) Crash Pad Series Website (has the first post-op transwoman ever in a professional porn- that I know of, at least. Her name's Julie!)
In Summation:
I hope that helps everyone! What can I say; I love porn, and the only way I can make sure that the kind of porn I like continues to get made is to spread the word so that people keep buying it and they'll keep making it. Not to mention that I love helping out individuals and couples who thought their kind of sex and the sort of things that turn them on didn't exist.
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